Recently, the Sunday Telegraph featured an article by gossip columnist Ros Reines, in which she launched a condescending attack on Mummy Bloggers. She tore them to shreds and she upset a lot of people (bloggers). Her tone was mean and scathing.
It is my belief that people criticise things they don’t understand. At the heart of most judgment is intolerance; a lack of understanding or education. Rather than taking offense to her words, I have decided to share with you some of the reasons behind why I blog.
I know that not every blog post will appeal to all readers. By writing about my personal experiences I also feel quite ‘exposed’ and this is something I am still adjusting to.
So, why do I blog? Why share with the world my inner feelings, fears and experiences?
Firstly, I blog to give voice (and hopefully resonance) to my experiences of modern day mothering. Every time I write a post I ask myself: Will this be of interest to others? If the answer is yes, I go ahead and write it. If the answer is no, I think again. I try not to be self-indulgent and as much as possible I try to keep the focus on experiences that will be relevant. You won’t find a blog post about potty training here – you can get that information elsewhere, but you will find a post about the challenges and discoveries of motherhood.
I write to connect with others. I have said previously that I believe connection is fundamental to surviving (and indeed enjoying) the challenges of parenthood. I hope that through my experiences, other mothers (and dads) will nod their head in agreement and know that they are not alone. If you are doing this more than shaking your heads then I have succeeded in my goal.
I also write to freeze some of my mothering moments in time. Almost like a time capsule. Some of my posts I will pass on to my daughters one day (and some I won’t)! I also write to release some of the anxieties associated with full-time mothering; a type of therapy if you like. By expressing myself in this way, I am often able to move through a particular challenge. I also enjoy narrating the beautiful moments – the things to treasure and bottle up about motherhood. The things I want to hold onto forever.
And, lastly, I blog because it’s my chosen form of creative expression. It’s both a hobby and an ambition and it rewards me in so many ways. Two very special people in my life encouraged me to put pent to paper last year: My beautiful and thoughtful sister, Hannah, and my dear friend, Lindy. I can’t thank you enough.
I know that my writing style will not resonate with everyone and I am OK with that. Not everyone will identify with my parenting approach and not everyone will agree with my humour. It’s impossoble to strike the right chords every single time. Some of the time I feel my posts fall a little flat. Interestingly these are usually the ones I have taken the most time to compose. Paradoxically the ones that I just shoot off (often without the same level of care or consideration) are the ones that draw the most comments and likes.
Whilst I love the comments that some posts generate (friendly hint embedded here) I also understand that not everyone likes to post their thoughts or opinions and I respect that. But if you have been holding back because you may hold a different view to what I have expressed, please don’t. I would especially love to hear from you if you disagree with me! This creates discussion and discussion often creates change. It would be a boring place if we all felt the same way about everything.
My blog does not make money. Every week I spend hours of my time developing and maintaining my blog’s content. I am not seeking financial reward, although if Tourism Queensland should wish to send my family on a holiday in return for sponsored post, they should get in touch immediately!
More on connection…
Since penning my first post, about 9 months ago, I have connected with many other bloggers and I now belong to a community of talented and interesting writers. Within these spaces I gain access to information that is not always available in the media or traditional news outlets. For example, over at mummylovestowrite, Michelle Holland blogs about mental health and her own personal struggles and triumphs over depression. I read her stories because I have many friends who suffer from anxiety and depression and Michelle writes in a way that is accessible, caring and thoughtful. And she’s a darn good writer too.
When I need a good belly laugh, I head on over to Pearls of Willsdom Sarah Wills has the rare knack of being able to make me laugh out loud. She has such a flair for humorous writing and I can identify with many of her experiences. She is pregnant with her second child and she is definitely worth checking out. Guaranteed comic relief.
And when I am looking for creative inspiration and writing tips, there’s no better blog than Allison Tait’s Life in a Pink Fibro Allison writes with humour and balance and for anyone in the creative spheres she is a must follow.
Thank you dear readers for following me. I hope that you will continue to do so and if you like what you are reading, please share the love and encourage others to join the not another slippery dip community.