Recently I took my daughter, Miss J, to the maternal health centre for her routine 3½-year check. I strolled into the centre holding my daughter’s hand and happily handed over the PEDS parental feedback form, which I had filled out before arriving. In every box beginning with the question: “Do you have any concerns?” I had ticked “No.” Every. Single. One.
Rewind a year and a half to her two-year check up and the assessment form was littered with behavioural concerns. At breaking point, I remember discussing these in detail with the maternal nurse. At the age of two, Miss J was clingy, defiant, anxious and demanding. We wrestled with multiple tantrums and meltdowns on a daily basis. It may sound like typical two-year-old behaviour, but it was excessive and worrying….