At no other stage in your life do you feel a greater respect and appreciation for your mum than when you become a mum yourself. Becoming a mum brings into focus the dedication, love and sacrifices that you’re own mum made. On this mother’s day I would like to dedicate this post to my mum – a woman who tirelessly put her children’s needs ahead of her own, and whose mothering abilities I aspire to match. It’s a post about thanks.
* The beautiful looking woman in this photo is my mum. It was was taken by my dad, at around the time she became a mum.
My dear mum,
Thank you for always being physically and emotionally available to us. My fondest memories of childhood are of walking through the door of our family home, after school, to Neenish tarts, Boston bun, and great chats with you. You always had time for this ritual and never rushed it by telling us to get to our homework.
Thank you for saying “yes” to all my creative requests and pursuits – ballet, tap dancing, gymnastics and drama classes – all of which I enjoyed immensely.
Thank you for driving thousands of kilometres across Melbourne to take me to tennis tournaments, tennis lessons, and tennis camps. Navigating the street directory was not your strong point, but your enthusiasm for sitting courtside and watching us play certainly was!
Thank you for providing us with The Best Lunches in school. Those chicken schnitzel sandwiches were legendary at primary school and I am sorry I traded them for the inferior vegemite variety. My friends reaped the benefits of my slow-to-develop palate.
Thank you for cooking every single night for 7 or more people – incredibly varying the menu constantly. I will never like your honey carrots but you inspired a great love of food amongst us and you were ahead of your time with your sophisticated approach to cooking.
Thank you for saving money from your “housekeeping” to buy clothes for me in my teenage years from designer shops like Bettina Liano so that I could look cool.
Thank you for not getting angry when I got myself into trouble at school. You signed those detention forms diligently and often with a slight smirk on your face.
Thank you for not getting angry when I told you I had taken out your car and smashed it – underage and unlicensed. Thank you for trying to conceal it from dad. We didn’t succeed but you tried.
Thank you for being the “cool” mum whom all my friends loved to be around.
Thank you for helping me achieve “The Best Party House” status in year 12. What an accolade for a teenager! It still amazes me that when I invited 50 kids back to our house after our Year 12 formal for an “unplanned” after party, your main concern was that there wouldn’t be enough to eat. Cleverly you had stocked up the freezer, just in case.
Thank you for sending me to France on an exchange student program when I was just 14. It exposed me to many challenges and those experiences have shaped my character and path in life in so many ways.
Thank you for having exchange students from France and Spain come and live with us. As if 5 kids weren’t enough for you to manage, you welcomed more into your home and made their experiences rich and memorable.
Thank you for always having our friends over for dinner, often at no notice. Our home was always open and another mouth to feed was never an inconvenience, rather you considered it an occasion.
Thank you for recognising the potential within me and thinking beyond the conventional measures of excellence and academic achievement.
Most importantly, thank you for teaching me about compassion, and to prioritise kindness above anything else in life. A greater lesson in life I cannot imagine.
Happy Mother’s Day Mum!
* Me and my sisters. You can probably guess the year that this photo was taken by the fashion and hair do’s! And in case you’re wondering, I am the grubby looking one on the right!
Tell me about a happy memory from your childhood. What’s the one thing your mum did for you that you would like to pass on to your own children, be it a ritual, advice or life lesson?