The past few weeks have been tough for me. Actually, scrap that. The past few MONTHS have been tough. No, scrap that too. The past YEAR has been tough! A combination of unfortunate life events has made it a very stressful and difficult time and my emotions have been all over the place. My husband’s ongoing unemployment, financial stress, missed opportunities, family worries, the recent death of a very close family member, uncertainty around life direction, and that’s merely the short list. It has been a turbulent and uncertain time. And I don’t like uncertainty. I rather like to know what’s coming next. Stability. Structure. Purpose. Direction. This is where I am most comfortable. But sometimes life throws you some curve balls and you have no choice but to sink or swim. Here are three things that help me to stay afloat when I feel like I am drowning:…
May is a great month. Smack bang in the middle of autumn (the Fall for my northern followers) we celebrate Mothers’ Day (Sunday, 10 May). This significant day allows us to celebrate and appreciate the mums and mum figures in our lives. But this year, I want to think beyond it being just one day.
I am dedicating the month of May to kindness. I am dedicating the month of May to celebrating mothers. I am dedicating the month of May to acts of compassion. I am dedicating the month of May to….
‘Make a mum smile in May’.
When Mr NASD asked me to keep a weekend in November free, I was naturally curious. He offered little information other than the significant detail that it would be a KID FREE weekend. He arranged for the girls to go to his parents for two nights and he told me nothing else. The destination was a mystery….
Modern life is fast and furious. We are overcommitted, overscheduled and over-connected. Most of us are working long hours, managing a family and social obligations, and trying to fit in exercise, errands, and all the other activities of modern life.
The majority of parents feel like they don’t have enough time for themselves, but mothers are especially burdened by this feeling. Whether you are working inside or outside the home, being a mother means making adjustments, compromises and sacrifices every day. Often, “me time” is made up of what scraps are leftover at the end of the day. I wrote this article recently about being in a state of mothering burnout. It resonated with so many women, partly because we women tend to overlook their own needs.
Taking time out for yourself is not indulgent; it is critical, but it doesn’t come easily. The good news,as I have discovered, is it gets easier with practice. Here are four tips to help you get some of the often elusive, yet all-important, “me time.”…
New motherhood brings both emotional and physical changes. It involves new beginnings and abrupt endings. Sleep, spontaneity and sex are likely to come to a screeching halt! But perhaps one of the biggest adjustments is the changes to a woman’s body following pregnancy and childbirth….
About a quarter of a century ago my parents wisely bought a holiday house in a very unique part of the world. I have written here about my love of this place. Growing up we spent every summer down at the beach and, for me, it represents everything that is good about childhood. It’s where coast meets country and the air is filled with the scent of pine and salt. It’s my “sweet spot”. It’s where I go to reset, recharge and refocus. It’s where I go to relax. It’s where I go to regift the experiences that my parents gave to me. It’s my happy place….
Lately I’ve been enjoying a new hobby – photography. I love exploring how different techniques can bring a still to life. I’ve been experimenting with light, texture, angles and filters. And I’ve been obeying the most important rule in photography – get close, and then get closer! My girls are willing subjects for me and so I share with you some moments of time I have captured behind the lens. The challenge for me is taking a great photo without identifying my girls. I assure you I can frame a shot but for the purpose of my blog I crop their faces out! Here area a few of my favourite things:
The beautiful Miss A enjoying the last rays of the afternoon autumn sun. I love how her dress sparkles in these shots – the light was just perfect at the time.
We’ve just arrived home after eight glorious days at the beach. This beach is the most magical place. Regular readers of this blog will know my deep attachment to it. It’s a special spot on the mornington peninsula where life slows down; a place of rest and reflection.It draws me in the moment I arrive and smell the pine and salty air. I am my most relaxed self when I am there with my extended family. I feel so lucky that I get to return to the place that filled my childhood with so many happy experiences. And now I am creating new memories with my own children. A generation on, it remains my “happy place”.
I think the best part about a holiday is slow mothering. Having Mr NASD to share the load means that I can switch gears and shed some of the frenzy that usually accompanies solo parenting. Being on holiday also means relaxing the rules a bit – later bedtimes, meals thrown together at the last minute, a quick hose down instead of a bath, and generally less stress about routines. As someone who likes to be in control all the time, and a self-confessed routine enthusiast, I love how I relax when I am not moving or mothering to a schedule….
As nature bursts into new life, spring is the ideal time to give yourself an internal and external makeover. Spring is synonymous with new beginnings, change and growth. Burst into new life with this emotional and physical makeover. It’s time to clear out the cobwebs and create a healthier body and mind. Even if it is not spring at your location, these seven simple steps will help recreate your life.
Spring Clean your Life in 7 easy steps
1. De-clutter your mind
Is your inner critic getting you down? You know: that little voice in your head constantly pointing out your deficiencies and weaknesses. “Everyone experiences the inner critic in some form,” says coach and author of The Confidence Workout, Michelle Landy. The key is to transform that negative energy into self-belief….
If you’re a woman then the chances are you will be familiar with the expression ‘Having it all.’ It’s rather an overused phrase used to describe the push and pull of family life and the pursuit of “balance”. Editors know that by putting “Can women really have it all?” in a headline, the magazine will sell itself.
It is a question that incites a lot of debate. Can women really have it all—balance a professional career and family – and do a great job at both? Recently I was asked what the term ‘having it all’ means to me. Instead of being interviewer, I became interviewee and I shared my feelings in an article that you can read here. I was one of five different people from very different walks of life to share my definition of having it all….